The common-sense understanding of possibility, as per the Oxford Dictionaries, is ‘A thing that may happen’*. I am not talking about this as possibility that may happen someday in the future.
The possibility that I am talking about in this book is a creation of yours, that empowers you in this moment, shapes the way you think and feel in this moment, to take new action. When you create this kind of a possibility, you impact your ‘now’. You impact your present.
For example, when I created the possibility of setting up IGL, India, it changed the way I felt in that moment. I felt a new surge of energy, a new power to take actions that were hitherto unknown to me. A possibility that excites you automatically puts you in the mood for taking action right now. You know you can make this happen, as long as you take actions in line with achieving this possibility.
To have presence is to live in this moment, in the here and now. Not in your past, and not in your future. To have presence is to be bodily alert in this moment. It is to be aware of your emotional state, its impact on how you see the world and also its impact on others around you.
To have presence is to be connected every moment with the question: ‘for the sake of what am I doing what I am doing?’ It is being connected to your purpose, and acting in fulfilling your purpose.
The above-mentioned definition is the internal aspect of presence. There is another aspect to presence, which is the external aspect of presence.
Simply put, presence is how you land on others. In others words, presence is the assessment others make of your impact on them. Even before you open your mouth to speak the first word, people may make assessments about you. This assessment is based on the body you show up in and the emotional energy you emit generally, and in particular moments. Of course, once you start to speak, what you speak and how you speak also impact the way others assess your presence.
The 3 Cs of leadership presence are
- care and
When something happens/does not happen, and for you that should not ‘be’, then ‘it’ is a problem. Problems are all about ‘what I make of what is so’. Problems do not exist in reality—they exist in the seeing of the observer.
*Oxford Dictionary, accessed 18 February 2016.