What Is So?
‘What is so?’ are assertions, claims of facts, which are either true or false, when compared to a standard established by the community.
What I Make of What Is So?
‘What I make of what is so?’ are assessments, statements of evaluation, opinion or judgement. Assessments are neither true nor false. Instead, they can be grounded (supported by evidence) or ungrounded.
A team is a group of people with a shared promise. A team is constituted in a promise. Without a shared promise, the team is not a team; it is just a group of people together.
Transparency is the functioning of a process without the user being aware of its presence*.
*Oxford Dictionary, accessed 18 February 2016.
The term ‘somatics’ derives from the Greek word somatikos, which signifies the living, aware, bodily person. It posits that neither mind nor body is separate from the other; both being a part of a living process called the soma.
The soma is often referred to as the living body in its wholeness; somatics, then is the art and science of the soma*.
‘A speculation is a conversation in which the participants create new possibilities for future action, and set a context in which those actions make sense.’ Speculative conversations relate to what could exist or might be done in the future. The key questions to be asked are ‘What is it possible to do?’ ‘What future would we like to create?’ or ‘What new can we achieve or create?’**
*Richard Strozzi-Heckler, The Art of Somatic Coaching: Embodying Skillful Action, Wisdom, and Compassion (Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 2014).
**Peter J. Denning and Robert Dunham, The Innovator’s Way (Cambridge: MIT Press, 2010).
A relationship is a promise.
I am the father of my children. While my children are my own, it is not that because they were born through me that I have a relationship with them of being a father. I am their father because I choose to be in this relationship with them and honour the promise of this relationship. There is a certain set of expectations that my children, my wife, my parents, my children’s school and the society have of me as a father. And when I honour their expectations, I do truly become a father in their eyes.
My brother on the other hand has two adopted sons. They were not born through him, and yet, his promise as a father is by no means any less than mine. There are biological fathers, who do not keep the promise of being fathers. So, my claim is that being a father is not about blood, but about a promise.
Similarly, all other relationships are promises. A relationship between a client and the vendor company, a relationship between a subordinate and his line manager, a relationship between a husband and wife and so forth.
Responsibility is being willing to be the cause in the matter. It is taking the posture that you are the source or the cause of something, and that outcomes can be shifted by your actions.